NOVEMBER 14TH

November 14^th 2015 a date I will never forget. I had a training program with some students on beads in Ajegunle area, Lagos, Nigeria. I also signed a date with my wonderful friends to do a poem with the theme ‘Redefinition’ somewhere around Ikeja, Opebi precisely. I met with my students for few minutes before going to Ikeja for the performance which i could not because I arrived late *sobs* I am very sorry friends it was not my doing.

But, why won’t I forget this date? This was the same day I met the wonderful faces behind the wisdom I get when I go online via whats app through a group called ‘Maxi Net ‘and ‘The Refined Babes Network’ created by one of my mentors, Mr. Matthew Femi Adedoyin.

This is the same day I got new information on ‘SEX’, though restructured I still want to share it with you because you are so dear to me.

v  Sex might be ‘Fun’ but in the wrong environment, it is not FUNNY at all.

v  Sex might be one of God’s commands to mankind, but, it is definitely not the MOST important thing in life to do.

v  Checking through obituaries, there is no record of any who died for not having sex.

NB: This is to the teens and singles.

v  Let the bed remain undefiled till you have before dignitaries been pronounced MAN and WIFE after you must have sealed your commitment with ‘I DO’.

v  Having sexual intercourse with a person you are not legally married to and trying to break up with him/her can be liken to trying to separate glued papers; just like the papers will not be successfully separated so also will the break up leave behind scars in the heart.

Friends! Remember, this is not to condemn any but to share with you that “It pays to wait for YOUR OWN TIME i.e. in the marriage environment before engaging in any form sexual act with your spouse – the opposite sex”. However, if you have been in that situation we sometimes call ‘heartbreak’, don’t stay down there. “Come forth from that well and let’s EXCEL!” – (extracted from my poem ‘SEXANITY’).

I God YOU!

#I Love You.

WORDS

Ask the creator of the universe

You would know words can't be reverse.

Ask the child whose throat was cut

Who would only watch others cot.

Ask the girl child whose pride was stolen.

The lawyer who won the case

The young man serving jail term

The marketer that just got promoted

Ask the highest paid and profiting brand.

Ask them all and you will see

Words can calm the stormy sea

Heal ill heart

And coin as art.

Words can burn

Words can turn.

Words are eggs; so be wise

Words can tweak you also to rise.

Words can take you to the highest

So, before you cast out make sure you lick

WORDS.

I GOD YOU!

WHERE WERE YOU?

WHERE WERE YOU?

When I became native of no land

In my fatherland.

When the night turns day

And the day says ‘no way’

With whips of affliction on us stay

While feet swings astray.

Lost in sight as we run the race

With our hopes held in outer space

And great pain in the marrow

In the darkest of night, “what holds the morrow?”

Where were you?

When all that could refresh the soul was songs of sorrow

Sweet dreams of misery

And dance steps of suffering

To the tune, ‘poverty’.

Where were you?

When dreams only comes as we gaze high

Fixed eyes to the cloudless sky

With nakedness covered in thought

And my palace; the dirtiest hut

With an ‘open heaven’

For us all – eleven

Where were you?

Just when the blue sky turns grey

Ears will be filled with ‘HEY!’

Fear gripping

For ‘open heaven’ dripping

“Oh Lord! Let it not rain”

And when it does, all in vain

Buckets – filled

Inn?  Another pacific

Laying in turns

Bailing the sea while the eyes burns

Where were you?

When my rope

Is that of hope

Still, filled with joy

Without a toy

In battle with self

To fly above the present shelf

With weapons of mouth

Pulling down great mount

Where were you?

When decisions was all I need

And self-determination was all I had

In spite of pleasures I held my peace

For treasures to get at ease

Where were you?

This is a life tale written in poetic form. this is written to glorify God, though not where God has destined but not where i use to be - I HAVE MOVE FORWARD STILL MOVING TO THE PEAK. 

JOIN ME @ THE TOP!

MEN, SEX AND VIRGINITY

A lot has been said about men, sex and virginity. often times when the word virginity is uttered people think it applies to the female alone so they neglect the topic to be discussed.Hence, they give excuses on most customs and traditions in africa that demands the blood of virgins - female for ritual or land cleansing. Today's broadcast will break some myths about virginity that some men see as fact, but first we must unveil the keywords -Men, Sex and Virginity.

MEN: Adult human male.
SEX: According to my mentor Mr Praise Oladimeji Fowowe "Sex is a covenant exchange of love, life and pleasure between the man and the woman in the marriage environment for the purpose of unity, procreation and the expression of marital love".
VIRGINITY: The state of being a virgin - one is has never engage in any form of sexual activities. With this definition of virginity it means to us that gay and lesbians are no virgins.

Having established that, we would now talk about some myth about virginity.
MYTHS ABOUT VIRGINITY

• "Virginity is of ancient times" : we must have heard people say this with no remorse when the topic is mentioned for discussion. let me take time out to ask you to think about this statement 'after engaging in  illicit sex as singles on the wedding day couples will want to be alone otherwise called 'HONEYMOON', tell me what exactly will be the honey in the moon? If the man has been a free giver of his sperm in time past or maybe in present without the notice of the bride.
• "Virginity deprives us from knowing if we are sexually compatible":: Being a friend to all by virtue of my temperament, i listen to whatever demands my attention and i have heard guys say this word for word. Friends! Let me tell you that there is more to having a successful marriage than just testing women. NB: A virgin - male or female that just engage in any form of sexual activity few minutes before saying 'I DO' is no longer a virgin believe it or not. As told by my father, mentor, and teacher Mr praise and being convinced myself that "quality products don't need to be tested because they come with warranty". In marriage, sex is 100% right but outside the wed web it's wrong. I know some guys reading this won't be happy and some would also want to ask " what if when we get married and we are having problems sexually what do we do? to answer that you first check yourselves if there be any problem and if all is well you both should seek the face of God and help where you will find it examples are family life counselors to tell you what to do.

Having said that, i am so convinced that although there's nothing like the hymen in the system of the male species to indicate the state of virginity but there are other signs that can tell if it. this will be in the next edition friends. i write not to condemn anyone but to let all know so as not to perish in ignorance.

THIS PIECE OF MINE.

Every new dawn is to us a car
one of which we are either made or mar
still to us the end seem far
and why we say "nothing dey pa".
This piece of mine 'a prodigal knight'
use this time to set priorities right
seek and apply knowledge which is light
that your days may glitter bright.
Then as feet past life's shore
all in place you will be very sure.

Left to us we need just day
for to us the night won't pay
but while sun last let's make hay
then at night peacefully we will lay
This piece of mine 'your personal scale'
of course to some this is another stale
but why not pause and ask yourself
"depriving my name off life's shelf
what gain is there living a life of self?"
and when out of this terrestrial ball
curse posterity rain for a great fall.
 
We least expect when life says "it's over"
for to us the grave seem farer
this piece of mine, not to make you shiver
cos every tick draws us closer.
Take time out to think and re - think
those thoughts of yours you may also have to ink
travel in thought far and near
some of which you may bear
even some on you rain fear
think of past, present, and future here
all of these; i say please wear.

Life itself is as a line
sometimes rough and sometimes fine
this piece of mine is more than nine
see the signs that the end is nigh.
Take heed! he whose strength is full
lest he fall like a skillful fool
for life at best is very brief
be in time and not in grief.
Live this life as an assest
not necessariliy with your accent
so, live a life worth living
with that life you've been given.

(c) 2015

LETTER TO MATCH

Hello! Today i bring to you this parcel sealed with great kisses of gold. I will be sharing with us things that will help prepare our mind for success in our home and avoid making our home 'A Public News' as a celebrity even if you are not yet one.
Things to do to avoid scandal:

• As a single who is already committed to a person, know what he/she does as a passion, profession and the likes and try as much as possible to love what they do before you proceed with the relationship else along the line there will be potholes in the road to a successful home that is worthy of emulation.
• After you have done the first point look at what is attach to it i.e fame, prestige, wealth and so on then ask yourself  "CAN I HANDLE IT?". To further explain this, when you are just starting up you might discover that he/she is not always free maybe traveling from one location to the other commons sense that has been said to be not common at all should tell you that he/she will definitely in future be traveling round the globe and will surely be relating with people of different class and sex so begin by asking that question NOW!
• After you must have thought within you that you have answered the second point, let me stretch your mind aa litle more that the babe/dude will not relent at level one but he/ she will want to go higher than ever having in mind that the ground is crowded and there at the op are space so at every stage of growth you need to consciously be asking yourself that question " CAN I HANDLE THIS STAGE?"

MUMMY BOY OR A MAN

Hello viewers! You are welcome to today's broadcast . today promises to be very educating, entertaining and enlighthening as we discuss MUMMY BOY OR A MAN?
"Men are classified by the works of their heart shown to us by the works of their hands" - Solutionist.
this is not to condemn anyone but to right wrongs as off old that we have been told. let's start by unveiling the keywords in our topic.

• BOY: The early stage of a man in other words he's the growing man between age 4-17.
• MAN: The adult human male as define by the concise English dictionary.

Having establish that lets now talk about the mummy boy. He's the man who still possess the boyish character like being dependable. He has got no say, belief system or value of his own as a boy it can be overlooked but as a man he will have to put away some 'boyish' traits. He'll have to learn to be mature and accept responsibility like St. Paul in 1 cor. 13: 11 " When i was a child i spake as a child, understood as a child and spake as a child but when i became a man i put away childish things". Being dependable makes him bound; not able to make decisions on his own that concerns his life. Ain't saying it's bad to let parents know when and how you grow in life as a man but there should be a limit to how parents make certain decision that concerns your life when you become a man be THE MAN. I've heard and seen people who'll never make a decision without letting mama know what they want to do and contribute to it. This people in a relationship mama determine when and where they take their fiancee to for shopping, trainings, seminars, out door recreational events and when they fail to meet up with the engagement they utter words like " mummy is not in support of it". Then, in marriage mama determines how misunderstanding is settled in their home. in this case i am a strong believer of the word "Therefore shall a man LEAVE his household and CLEAVE to his wife and they shall become one flesh".
NB: Leave and Cleave sounds like LIVE which means they'll both live together fulfilling God's purpose for their lives. The difference between both spellings is letter C meaning they are to be committed to themselves and their marriage vows. The knowledge of this makes it easy to let mama know her limit in interfering in the relationship of the man and let God be the judge except he be not the author of it.
Men who still allows mama make the final say in their lives have either of these two in their relationship separation/ divorce. Like i earlier said, i write not to condemn anyone but to right wrongs as of old that we have been told.

WAY OUT:

• Seek knowledge: The knowledge of a thing brings about proper use of it and without knowledge my people perish. Growing men and adult should seek knowledge in divers area from etiquette and social polish. Having in mind that there are things that meets a boy that are acceptable in the slight of all but when seen in the man it will be considered as irresponsible. Seeking knowledge also involves vocational skills acquisition and entrepreneurial skills which is meeting people's needs that will eventually yield money as value. As a man, when parents can ask and they are given you directly or indirectly break free from the chains of  'final say' from mama end and any other who does wants to control the affairs of your life on important issues.

Beloved! So sad to stop here today but i promise to write to you soon. Leaving you in peace is your regular host Solutionist till we meet next time on this platform keep preparing for a successful home

BYE!.

#MOVE ON

Hello viewers! It feels good to be back from a long vacation here. Today, i will be tell us a story from an annonymous friend and i am so convinced that this will reset a mind. Enjoy!

"I am a princess, betrothed to a prince from another kingdom who had already exposed me to the world of sexual immoralities at age 10 whenever he comes visiting for  weeks or months. After several abuse i grew up to be attracted to him but at age 18 when i was told of the betrothal it was too difficult to love him as a husband but for the good of the land i had to gradually develop the love for him; still daily sexual escapades takes place but this time it was not an abuse it was based on mutual agreement. After my second abortion which was not noticeable to our parents, he started acting very funny ( no calls, texts, pings, visits and so on). I began to wonder asking questions like "what's going on?", so i called his apartment to ask him. He pat my back and said " so sorry sweety just that this days I've been very busy but I'll make it up to you", as usual that ended with our sexual escapade there and then.
    A week before my 23rd birthday i got the shock of my life while driving the road leading to the popular shopping mall, there beside a brand new BMW car is my 'Prince charming' Dave in close contact with another lady. It was so disgusting that they both were caressing in broad day light imagine 'A crown prince', still wondering in my car i called his line but he reluctantly refuse to pick the calls five times.When he eventually picked he told me to stop disturbing his executive meeting, this boost the already made annoyance so i stepped out of my car and behind him i stood demanding an explanation but what i got landed me in the hospital unconscious. It's a week now since i was admitted in the hospital unconscious according to the doctor, so when i asked who brought me there i was told a stranger by the name Steve. I was in the hospital for close to a month and Dave never thought it was right to visit me after all he did to me. When i was discharged i felt cheated though and wanted to let go but the fear of being tagged a loser by my conscience and the feeling of my people being enslaved forever made me feel i over reacted so i called him and settled with him.
       So we got on again, and so it went on throughout the year that when he offends i beg for forgiveness in his place to him the offender. This was the last he did that i had to call it a day with him forever.  It was the day before valentine's day he called and asked me to go out with him on Val's day i agreed and the time was fixed that he would come to the palace to pick me up. The day arrived and he still has not come so i decided to go over to his place.When i arrived at his place what i saw is what you are thinking now. the same girl i saw him with the other day at the shopping mall on his bed this time when i scream in shock he pushed me out of his gate and beat me publicly to the state of coma again.This time, after i was discharged i vow to let go no matter what it may take from me since i can now confirm that this 'prince charming' is a monster in royal attire. It wasn't that easy though, but i just have to let go and face my dream as a good dancer and singer which i have long neglected.
      I was mentally derailed for months as a result of when i walked up to my mum and dad and told them the whole story from the several abuse to the abortions, the cheating and beatings they disbelieved me and said i should stick with him and when i refused they sent me out of the house to suffer saying my plan is to allow them remain slaves forever. So i went to live with a distance friend and started living below palace standard of living. This for me was hell but i had to learn to live without palace luxuries. Thanks to my friend who despite my ugly past received me and helped me start looking at my glorious future without palace luxuries. Now even though i am not where i am suppose to be i am not where i use to be. I am living a happy life fulfilling the purpose at which i was born not concerned about the said betrothed husband who had plans of reducing me to useless instead of a princess".
         Ladies! If you have been abused in any area ( physically, sexually, verbally etcetera), it's better to let go and let God and if you've not thanks to God. What that means is that you need to, not only shine your eyes because not all that glitters is gold, shine also your heart and your brain. And don't you believe that 'love is blind', if you do married will definitely open your eyes. Don't be carried away by his charming looks because the difference between CHARMING and HARMING is letter C. So be COURTEOUS and CONSCIOUS.

Till i come your way next time keep on moving on.

BYE!

Where is the wealthiest part on earth?

             On the 4th of the Month of March 2015, I was officially ushered into a new phrase of my life which is the ' Time of manifestation of the discovered purpose of God for my life' and like my pledge i don't want to die full but empty and i don't also want to hide from humanity words that are meant to right wrongs; so i will be sharing with us words that have kept me so far. Today's broadcast promises to be an impactful one as we will be talking about PURPOSE. First of all let me start by asking this question. Where is the wealthiest part on earth? Often time when we ask this we hear people tell us that the wealthiest part is the gold mines, silver mines, diamond mines,or the oil fills but let me shock you by saying the wealthiest part is just a stone throw from your home/ perhaps a walking distance for am so convinced that the wealthiest part on earth is the GRAVE YARD.Someone would want to ask why? I'll tell you. Buried six feet are books that were never seen in blue/ black inks, beautiful paintings that were never painted, songs that were neither written nor sang, business that were never open, ministries that were never open, churches that were never built, visions that never became reality, ideas that never came alive, great men who died as alcoholics, drunkards, drug traffickers, and awesome women who died as AIDS victims and prostitutes etc. Am afraid that if i keep mute someone reading this will also add to the grave riches and this will definitely give the world more itches but am so convinced in my spirit that as a result of this broadcast we will all make a lasting decision never to let that be our testimony but that we will die EMPTY!
" The greatest TRAGEDY in life is not DEATH, it is living a life without PURPOSE" - DR. MYLES MUNROE. There are questions to unfold in life to live a live worth living with the life we have been given and they are:

1. Who am i (Identity)?
2. Where am am from ( Heritage)?
3. Why am i here (Purpose)?
4. What can i do (Potential)?
5. Where am i going to (Destiny)?

 The answers to thieve questions lies in SELF DISCOVERY. Knowing who you really are to a large extent will make people not to be able to tell you who you are not. When you know your source you will be able to know where you are and where you are going. So friends! Seek to know WHO YOU REALLY ARE.

• SOME FACTS ABOUT PURPOSE:

1.  Purpose is the original intent for a thing (WILL); the reason why a thing was made/ the cause of creation.
2. Purpose is more important to God than Plans.
3. Purpose is very powerful and it precedes plans to God. So before you proceed with your plans consult your source (GOD),for he'll finance his purpose for your life
4.   Purpose is the reason for birth and the meaning for existence.

So sad we'll have to stop here for tonight (Nigeria Time), till we meet here again on this platform, i still remain you regular host Solutionist. Remember  "Whatever he calls for he provides for".

BYE!

#ClemebrationAppreciation
ClemebrationAppreciation is a program set aside for the appreciation of those who has been a blessing over time in my life, it is to celebrate my birthday in the month of March. This is beginning from the first day of the month to the fourth day. I've personally taken time out to share with us life lessons from my experiences in the past year of my life. Enjoy this:

1. " Never be little anyone for you don't know who has been placed to hold your hands on the path to success" -Solutionist
2. " Everyone around you is so important , so treat them as valuable assets for they have answers to life's questions" - Solutionist.

MEN: HUNTERS OR GARDENERS Pt2

Hello Viewers! It feels good to be here again this time as we continue from where we stopped in analyzing MEN last week. " To know a man , look at his character", this was our opening quote for last week and ii gave us some friuts of the HUNTER MAN. Today i will be continuing from there so we can get the real picture of what i am talking about.

FRUITS OF THE HUNTER MAN
Too secretive: He would hide important information from anyone who needs it to the extent of hiding what he does for a living. Friends don't be too busy or spiritual with these fruits for you know " By their fruits, ye shall know them". Hunters are everywhere. I am not writing to judge anyone but to help us to be able to SHINE OUR EYES, HEART AND BRAIN. I am not also referring to the male gender alone remember MAN according to God is the entire human race.
Our illustration, the two sons of Isaac, Esau was a hunter whose entire life is revolve round the field, pursuing and killing forgetting to save for the next. So when the game is needed to take him to the next level in his life he had to go back to start over again.
NB: Hunters search diligently for something precious that look promising but it is one thing at a time, they find it, pounces on it and then KILL IT. They are dream killers.

After we have unveil the hunters, So join me on as we break the ice of the GARDENERS.

GARDENERS: Gardeners are groomers. They also search diligently but with positive motive and application of such motive.  They are not restricted to the already made, they are also called THE GOLD MINERS. when they find a raw or already made seed they plant it in their ornamental ground (garden), they nurtures it, prunes it, guides it, water it and makes sure that their seed gets enough sunlight so that all that dwells therein might show forth to the world ALIVE AND ADMIRABLE. g ardeners believe that whatever they find has the right to live and do exploits so rather than to kill it they take responsibility over it for a life time.
How do i identify a GARDENER?
His search is not limited. He looks for a raw gold, then, either he refines it or he takes it to the refinery for complete processing; so that gold might be suitable for the ROYALS in the PALACE. He constantly uses the basic techniques to watch over his seed that it might blossom for the world to see.

FRUITS OF THE GARDENERS

1. Investment lover: He invests his time, energy and money to see that the gold is refined and it is suitable for the royals in the palace. This type will want to see you grow each day.
2.  Creativity lover: He will never cut you to size rather he will boost your esteem so you can continue to grow.
3.  Never secretive: Whatever information needed to continue to grow he gives freely.
4. Royal treatment lover: "You don't give what you don't have" he has this so he freely gives to anyone that cares. This type is very courteous, he knows when and how to use the magic words (Please, Excuse me, Thank you, Sorry, and Pardon me). They will never abuse you emotionally and otherwise.they are REARERS indeed.

Ladies what do you want? Guys what type are you? I've written not to condemn anyone but to make use to be able to classify ourselves as guys and probably retrace our steps if needs be or continue in our deeds. And to be able to make the right choice as to whose feet we'll lay down our 'glorious crown' (submission) as ladies before walking down the isle to say 'I DO'.
Till we meet again here on this platform , i still remain your regular host; Solutionist. Keep preparing for a successful home.

MEN: HUNTERS OR GARDENERS

If you want to know a man, look at his character because "there are MEN amongst men, real men who are not measured by material possessions" - Solutionist.
       Today's broadcast we will be unveiling men.The aim of this teaching is to open our eyes to identify the category we belong to as a guy/man and also to be able to know the kind of man we would as a lady/ woman will like to place our crown beneath his feet.
Man according to God is the entire human race but for the sake of today's broadcast we would use the definition of the concise dictionary which is man is THE ADULT HUMAN MALE. "Men are classified by the works of their heart, shown to us by the works of their hands" - Solutionist. we'll be making use of the two sons of  Isaac named Esau and Jacob as our illustration for better understanding of our topic MEN: HUNTERS OR GARDENERS. so join me as we unveil these types of men.

HUNTERS: Who are hunters? According to concise dictionary, hunters are persons whose life is revolved round pursuit and then killings. Hunters don't kill little animals, they look out for something promising and beautiful, pounces on it and then KILL IT.For theirs whatever is caught has got no second life it has to go down. So the question for all ladies out there becomes how do i identify a hunter man? A hunter man just like the hunter looks for a beautiful woman who has got a burning idea, vision, and has a definite direction; one who is endowed with incredible confidence and after two years of marriage the lady is reduce to nothing having giving up on herself already because the man has neglected his role as a HUSBAND. single ladies do not think this teaching is only for the marriage ones alone, look closely there are hunters around you as singles to identify them is by their fruits:

1. MEN WHO CUTS YOU TO SIZE: He limits your ideas whenever you think beyond your now level.
2. MEN WHO ARE PROFESSIONALS IN EMOTIONAL ABUSE: Putting you down is one of his tools for hunting. he leaves you each day giving you reasons to question god either by calling you negative names or any other means just to destroy your emotions. men who place themselves as detectives over your life, trying to make you lose important connections by cutting you off your interest.
3. EXCUSE MAKERS: They are very good at coming up with excuses for their actions and in actions. they make use of diversification tactics.
4. ADVANTAGES USERS: Treating you like a slave before and after marriage. Always demanding. Making use of the final say syndrome.

Friends! So sad we will stop her for today, we will continue our unveiling some other time. Till we meet here again "SHINE YOUR EYES, HEART AND BRAIN" if love is blind, marriage will open your eyes.
BYE FOR NOW!

LOVE UNVEIL

Who hath believed this report`?
"Love is blind"
"Love is wickkked"
"Love doesn't exist" as a matter of fact! "love don die for TITANIC'
Let him ask Prince Jonathan, the son of the first king of isreal
or take the next ride to the shepherd boy David, the son of Jesse
Love is not sex
So don't go in search of it with thy tool flirt
This bond is not a noun
Act the word not just for the now
It will make much sense when the cloud of life becomes so dark
And all around is just bbbark
But this hand stretch forth toward you wanting to help you stand tall.
Love is GOD for GOD is LOVE.

HOW TIME FLYS!

At this junction, should i go before or now?
For the last time i checked, love was a verb and not a noun.
End was trend
Cos virtue's feet was stuck in the world's soil for negative trend to mend.
Ticket into the marital reign: VIRGINITY
Promiscuity? not a citeria for the ownership of property.
Fashion was about what you are putting on
Daughter - Mama; best of friends
Papa- Son; so tight as friends.
Every scratch on skin is from dad and mum
Having been on me a jury.
And the most valuable gift to spouse was a priceless treasure
kept so safe for the future.
That was the last time i checked!
But this time i check
Trend pride its flaws with no remorse
Sexual purity is now of the old
Fashion is all abpouit what you are not wearing
Daughter - Son finds friends outer
Scratch on skin? Not from dad or mum, now fashions
"Am of age" is the lyrics of children to parents.
hope to check so soon
and see VIRTUE stand fit (Mudiaga)
and TREND bow in respect to it.